by Randy Schroeder
Is it possible that what my marriage needs is for me to develop more of the character qualities of Christ?
For example, the character quality of attentiveness. Wouldn't I be a better spouse if I had the attentiveness of Christ?
Or how might my marriage intimacy grow if I had the compassion of Christ? What if I had the gratefulness of Christ or the joyfulness of Christ or the self control of Christ?
Maybe I should ask my wife what character quality she would like to see developed in me.
One that I have been working on lately is gratefulness. I started a gratefulness journal a couple of years ago, where I would write big and small things that I have to be grateful for. I just realized recently that it has been about 9 months since I have written in it, and my overall attitude is less grateful than it was when I was writing in it. Interesting connection.
Change in my marriage has more to do with me becoming like Christ than almost any other factor. By God's grace, I certainly look a lot more like Jesus than I did 20 years ago. And yet, I can look a lot more like Him. As a church, let's go "all-in" for growing in our Christlike character.